Friday, February 21, 2020

Male, Female, and the Mother!



Imagine if the life of a helpless little being was entrusted to a basic non-upgraded human. To an average and moderately selfish person. To someone who is fully conscious of the priority of his own life and needs, and inherently masters the survival instinct gadgets for his sole benefit. To an individual whose brain, in an hour of distress, would systematically reject any attempt to be troubled by something else other than its intrinsic well being. And to a simple mortal who would commonly be unwilling to sacrifice the comfort of every atom in his body for the sake of another tiny and greedy creature! Have you imagined yet what would’ve happened? Well, I’ll plainly tell you: YOU WON’T BE EXISTING! Actually none of us would, the small portion that would survive, if not extinct, will certainly have a “saving human race” facility to thank for, an institution with conscription policy, and within which all the employees are forced to nurse at gunpoint, though lot of them end up committing a tragic suicide.
The process of conceiving a baby starts early with the occurrence of the sickening and distasteful menstruation. Then the fertilization happens and the real struggle begins: nausea, back pain, depression, stomach burns, the heavy burden, achy skin… just to name a few. After a lengthy draining nine months, comes the severe contractions and excruciating labor. And as if enduring such torment wasn’t enough, the sweet baby still demands an intensive care and attention provided by constant breastfeeding, nursing, rocking, burping, cleaning… Notwithstanding the painful engorgement, sleep deprivation, fatigue and dullness. This process must be carried on during at least the first two years of the baby's life, so until the child is partially independent to take care of himself, he ought to be exclusively and selflessly tended. It requires therefore an extremely advanced human body, on both emotional and physical level, to assume such a heavy and tiresome task.

When a woman becomes a mother, her simple body is converted into a more sophisticated one; everything changes and evolves. Physically speaking; the hardship she thought can never withstand, seems surprisingly bearable. Undergoing pregnancy, delivery and nursing demonstrate the strength and resilience of the mother’s both body and spirit. Furthermore, the alteration is utterly striking as new organs initiate their work after an unnoticed slumber; the uterus is expertly and gracefully creating a complete human being and then steadily recovering after birth to regain its original form. And the breast is no longer a decoration accessory but an outright intricate mechanism designed to provide appropriate milk at the perfect time with the ideal temperature.   

Mentally, on the other hand, and at the expense of postpartum depression, the mother’s mind is possessed by an invisible power that conceals the dark side and selfishness characterizing the human nature; an empowering force that actually pushes mothers to passionately and tenderly care for a tiresome and taxing small being. Mothers can experience a queer feeling of an absolute selflessness during the first year after delivery. That intense compassion compels them to ignore their own misery and respond assiduously to the newborn’s perpetual cries and several wake ups. Anything other the well being and comfort of the baby is a mere trifle. Once a mother, the person is no longer an inhabitant of an average human body but rather a mighty form that is innately programmed to thoroughly nourish and care for a new individual.  

It’s like falling in a trap; you are a simple human, putting yourself first, taking full care of yourself, relishing life’s pleasures at ease, having the luxurious time to spend freely, and being completely and satisfyingly self-centered. Then, promptly after birth, everything changes, the body you used to know start functioning differently, you discover new abilities, a remarkable endurance to fatigue and exhaustion, and a startling priorities shifting. The ego is brutally crushed and the attention is uncontrollably directed to that little impatient creature. You’ll wish badly to return to the former “Hakuna Matata”* state, but the button is already switched on. Once a mother, the world around takes a whole different sense and meaning.

Mothers are an extreme blessing and a valuable gift. The creator granted humanity with an infinite source of affection and care, a pure form of altruism and devotion, and a strong shelter of kindness from the world’s cruelty. It had to be an upgraded body to deal with the hardship of carrying and nursing a growing soul, it required a MOTHER to sustain a sane human life on earth. ♥

*A problem free philosophy  

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