“Believe in yourself!”, “Be confident!”, or “Have faith!” are all phrases that seem to contain a powerful message and an inspirational motivation, but they turn out in practice to be as weightless as the piece of paper they’re written on. In fact, trying to channel power and energy to believe in oneself would only arouse confusion, doubt, and fear.
Let me explain further:
Usually when we are willing to change something in
our life like quitting an addiction or learning a specific skill, a tremendous
amount of perseverance and consistency is required in order to turn that new
change into a life lasting habit. In other words; to see satisfying progress
and sense the positive impact, the new lifestyle or the process of learning for
instance, should become part of your daily life, and life is no smooth plain field; it can be full of handicaps, drawbacks, and mostly bad surprises.
Difficulties and rough times occur; stressful days
and roadblocks can abruptly lower your self-esteem and make you easily fall off
the wagon. Life might seem worthless along with any effort invested to make
things any better. During those tough times, the fading faith will quickly give way to harmful addictions and surrender. You’ll consequently find
yourself drowning deeper and deeper in the ocean of despair when you though,
for a brief moment, that you saw a gleam of light, and when you believed that just by yourself; with a plain strategy
and shallow motivation, you can make it to your goal.
However, things don’t usually work that way!
Belief can be critical in order to alter or improve
something in your life. But if at every time you decide to carry through a new
habit or a new project, you keep losing track as soon as faced with
challenging times or crippling hindrances, you might need the capacity to believe
that things will get better. That a certain situation or difficulty is not permanent,
and that you can cope with hardship and obstacles without falling into the
infinite loop of bad habits and depression.
Nevertheless, people tend to be extremely skeptical about
their ability to change or achieve something if they are by themselves. I mean
if it was that obvious and easy, people from whatever part of the world, regardless their environment and entourage, would’ve accomplished countless miracles. Taking, however, the fact that we are social beings into consideration, it appears that strong
belief is only generated within a group. Actually, community creates belief!
If you are looking to master a new skill or lose weight,
you might need other people who share the same purpose and are working on the
same thing. A group of alcohol addicts for exemple, will dramatically increase the chances
of an addict to quit drinking. This is simply because through shared experiences
and troubles faced when trying to quit such a wrecking habit, that an addict will see and
believe that as that person has made it, he certainly would as well. Talks and exchanges
within a group sharing the same struggle and the same fight, will magically
convince its members to suspend disbelief and “practically” believe in
themselves.
If something must change, you must believe that
change is possible. Your odds of success go up strikingly high when you commit to
changing as part of a group, even if that group is as large as two people. Moreover,
surrounding yourself with people who don’t just utter “believe in yourself” but
genuinely express how much they “Believe in you”, and how they truly see you
doing it to the end even if it seems fantasy to you. Only those people are
capable of making you accomplish what you though impossible.
Change seems real when we see it in other people’s
eyes!
Thus if progressing towards your goal seems incredibly tough and distressing, you might need to take a look around you. If your entourage is flowing in bad habits, or doesn't take trouble to change a thing, or is constantly reproaching you for not having enough faith and courage to quit an addiction, you might as well need to consider looking elsewhere, and reach out to the people who fight the same battle as you, who share the same passion and ambition as you, and who wholeheartedly believe that success and greatness are lurking in the near future.
Community to which we belong detains an immense power over us. People that you keep around you will generate the belief and
nourish it for you to the point it will look real and already an unshakable part of
the existence. If you take a short glimpse of the place you’re in right now, you’ll realize
that whatever the people close to you believe, and whatever words or ideas that have been constantly echoed in your ears, are actually what you solely and deeply believe too.
Belief is easier when it occurs within a community!
So beware who you surround yourself with.
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